Skip to main content

What Is Attachment And Why Does It Matter?

By April 9, 2021April 2nd, 2022Teens/Children

Most of us know that attachment is an essential part of healthy development, but we may not know exactly why it is so important or understand how attachment styles are formed. Attachment affects brain development by increasing feelings of safety and comfort, allowing the brain to use its energy to develop pathways crucial for higher-level thinking. Parenting a child with an insecure attachment or disorder can be difficult, but we are here to help you and your child.

Attachment Styles

Secure attachment is mainly related to the development of the frontal cortex, which is responsible for decision-making, judgment, and reasoning and leads to the development of empathy. If a child sees themselves as worthwhile and deserving of care, they can see others that way. A child can only attend to other’s needs if they believe their own basic needs will be met. Conversely, if a child has experienced trauma, they may have a wide range of problems related to a lack of secure attachment. This can include developmental delays, difficulty with emotional regulation, impaired social relationships, low self-esteem, aggression, depression, etc. 

Parenting a Child with Attachment Issues

1. Be patient with yourself and your child.

Parenting a child with insecure attachment or an attachment disorder can be exhausting, frustrating, and emotionally trying. You may feel like your efforts aren’t worth it and that you cannot make a difference. Attachment disorders are not repaired overnight.

2. Stay focused on the goal.

The key is to remain calm yet firm as you interact with your child. This will teach your child that they are safe and can trust you.

3. Seek help from a Mental Health Professional.

Mental Health Professionals can help you and your child repair their attachment style. Mental Health Professionals can teach coping skills and parenting techniques, and help to foster safety and trust in the relationship.

We’re Here To Help

If you or your child is in need of support, we are here for you! We can help you and your child develop the skills necessary to flourish and grow healthy relationships. Contact us today to learn more!

Book an appointment online or call our office today at (858) 776-8804. We currently offer teletherapy appointments for all clients and are accepting new clients now.